4 Ways To Rewrite Your Story, Even When It’s Tough

What do you do when life feels less than satisfactory or out of control—rewrite your story and change the narrative!

Our lying pasts have become the perpetual stories of our lives.

We have become clueless actors in a cosmic play in which we keep reciting scripts that repeatedly lead us into the same old drama—in relationships, our spiritual lives, and even in our careers.

While we cannot change the past, we can flip the script on it by recognizing how it is contaminating our here-and-now existence and making an empowering plan to rewrite it.

While we are our parents’ children, we are not their choices!

We replay these scripts, robotically moving through each scene, unaware that we are carrying the very thing it takes to rewrite our stories.

Like victims of a cosmic soap opera vortex, we repeat the same mistakes, hating, and being shocked by, the inevitable results.

It is living in our pasts.

With a less than stellar childhood, we are being held hostage to someone else’s past.

Brokenness breeds brokenness, but a lifetime of change is empowered by a single act of courage.

Use your frame of reference to rewrite your story

Your frame of reference is how you see or interpret the world around you—your worldview, your take on things, your point of view, and it is all driven by your life experiences, good and bad.

How you make decisions is influenced, on all levels, by your frame of reference.

Opinions and decisions swing on how you see the world around you.

Rule one is accepting that just because something makes perfect sense to you does not mean it lines up with reality or truth.

We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.

Rewrite the Script 

All it takes to rewrite your story is an act of your will, the decision to change, and the courage to follow through.

It is that simple.

So, let’s lay the groundwork to keep you on track.

It is likely that your old script has led to more than a few unhealthy relationships.

A natural progression of script flipping is that many of these relationships will not make the cut.

 Mapping the Stage

To lay the foundation for your journey, draw a line across a piece of paper and section it off in 10-year increments.

Along that timeline, note positive experiences along the top and negative experiences along the bottom.

Notice any patterns.

Make a Trigger List

Make a list of people, places, things, situations, and circumstances that irritate you, make you angry, or withdrawn.

Include anything that sends you into a negative spin.

Take your time.

This will take some thinking.

As things come to mind, write it down.

For each item listed, see if it relates to anything on your timeline.

Make a Plan

Referring back to your Trigger List, write a plan of action.

What will you do differently than you have in the past?

Again, take your time and add to the plan as things come to mind.

Flip the script on that old behavior.

Just tear up the old script, throw it away, and start rewriting your life.

Because old patterns have not been working, shut them down.

Exit Stage Left

In a trigger situation, you might have to excuse yourself from the conversation or back away from the situation in order to challenge your thoughts.

In professional situations, it might mean politely or assertively excusing yourself.

In personal relationships, you might have to agree to a “call word” or gesture that means time out or to back off.

Consider this when creating your game plan for change.

Rewrite your story when it goes off script

When you upset the apple cart, chaos follows.

When you apply these principles, you can count on some relationships falling by the wayside.

Whether the relationship is platonic or romantic, remember that some, if not most, of your current relationships are based on your old-script personality.

These folks have only seen glimpses of the true you.

So, when you begin to act differently, their script-personality is fighting for its existence and likely cannot tolerate the true you without a backlash.

Playing to the Rafters 

When you act out the new script, surrounding old scripts dislike it.

They play to the rafters, acting up and acting out.

You will see extreme behaviors that will surprise you because the more you play from the new script, the more ridiculous and outlandish old-script people will seem.

When you see this going on, grab a cup of tea or coffee, sit back, and feel good about the fact that it is working!

Your eyes are finally open, and you have outgrown that acquaintance.

You are no longer stuck and are progressing toward your destiny.

You are gaining focus and becoming acquainted with your newly scripted life.

Include those you trust in your rewrite

This list may be a short as one individual or longer.

The key to this list is to choose people you know will tell you the truth without fear of backlash.

Yes.

You will probably get your feathers ruffled in the beginning because the old playwright will not like the actors going off-script.

The individuals on this list should be people you can trust with sensitive information.

Those you trust to keep confidences, and those who have demonstrated that they have your best interest at heart.

These are the people who are not judgmental. 

Take your time.

Keep it with you to jot down anyone who comes to mind.

Leverage this list to help provide objective feedback to guide you through when you are in the trenches.

Taking Direction

If trusted others are telling you something you do not want to hear, that might be exactly the message you need.

It means you have to diligently, and consistently, recheck your new script to see where the old one might have crept in.  

You can learn the lines, but you only get results by applying what you learn.

Any time you let this go and get lazy, you will know it because you will recognize old funky thoughts creeping back in from their respective graves.

Cut!

Print It!

Decide today to commit to the process.

Do not listen to the lie that it is not working or that things are not changing.

It took longer than a day to morph out of who you really are.

This will require the determination to stick with it until you have completed your new script.

In consistency lies the power.

It took years, maybe decades, to get where you are.

You did not develop the old script overnight, and it will take determination to rewrite it.

Applied consistently, this becomes easier.

Congratulations!

You have just broken free from the past.

Enjoy yourself, my friend.

It is time to take this show on the road.